Having recently celebrated our Silver Wedding Anniversary, I would say that 99.9% of the time, the Green Man and I have a great relationship, based on love, trust and communication. But every now and again something happens (and believe me I have absolutely no clue as to what it is) to make him go all quiet on me. I've tried, in the past, to wheedle out of him what the problem is, but to no avail, and his only response is to stomp off to his "cave" and be alone until he recovers his ?? whatever it is that he's lost!
This happened a few days ago, and even after all this time it really upsets me when he blanks me - I know it shouldn't, because he always works his way through it and if I can just be patient everything returns to normal. But for some reason, this particular morning I found it difficult to handle, and I was really upset, not knowing if I had inadvertently upset him, or if it was something completely nothing to do with me what-so-ever, his silence cut me to the bone.
I decided to spend some time blog-hopping to try to lift my mood. I couldn't tell you how it happened, I just read a couple of blogs, followed a couple of links, and suddenly I found myself reading a blog written by a young mum, with 4 young children and a husband who had been brain-damaged in a surfing accident. She was left with a blind husband who was completely unable to communicate and who spent most of the day crying. She had fought hard to be allowed to have him living at home with her and the children, only to find that instead of helping him, it seemed to make him worse, and she was seriously contemplating sending him back into full-time care so that she could raise her children without them having to witness his despair, and without the constant worry of also having to cope with his complete and utter lack of communication.
Boy, was I humbled.
From now on, whenever GM feels the need to cut off and hide in his cave I shall let him go without question, leave him in peace until he is ready to emerge, and thank my lucky stars that his non-communication is only a very short temporary glitch, and that when he is ready to return, everything is back to normal.